Where you have no authority your words are merely advice.

People who have no business speaking into your life really want you to model your life based on what they feel and say. Getting caught up in this is a trap. Basically God set up His order and a structure of authority for this reason. The almost non-existence of honor in our society has not helped this at all. David's honor of God showed honor to Saul being God's anointed and appointed despite his personal shortcomings. Society teaches flaws and mistakes as a reason to dishonor but God doesn't see it that way. All honor should be based on God and what He says. But society has through the media and other things have felt a mistake blemishes and takes away honor. This is an illusion since no man except Christ is perfect outside the sacrifice of Christ and His gift of grace. Now when somebody comes to shape or give you direction outside of this established authority it doesn't mean you have to dishonor them but it doesn't mean you have to heed what they say. Authority and order determines the weight of words. It is manipulative to try to establish this weight through emotion and persuasion . God's Word ultimate trumps everything and His commands but after that His order He has set comes into play. God will not speak to you what He has put in someone above you. We need to know what's from God and from people trying to evaluate with their limited minds and resources. If it's not from God's order it should be viewed as advice and handled accordingly.